3 Things to Bear in Mind in 2019


As we start 2019, many of us will set goals and make resolutions in the hope that our lives will be better.   I wish everyone the joy and satisfaction that comes from the fulfillment of personal and professional goals.

As you set your goals and make resolutions for the New Year, I would like to suggest a few points to bear in mind –

  • Some goals may have been achieved, but not in the expected form.

Sometimes the trappings of success can become a distraction, causing us to pursue status symbols as proof that goals have been achieved. You may not have the coveted job title or corner office, but you may have already fulfilled the mandate in your current role. If this is true for you, it may be the right time to move forward, to set new goals to take you to the next level of effort that will challenge you to be your best self.

  • It’s good to set goals, but even better to leave them open-ended. 

It is necessary to set measurable goals to track progress, but be prepared to adjust goals to take advantage of new and better opportunities. Sometimes goals can be limiting your true ability to go further. Paying attention to your situation as it unfolds can provide valuable information. Perhaps a layoff that disrupts a career goal may just be the push you need to step outside your comfort zone and launch your own business.

  •  Align your goals with your values.

Avoid the trap of striving for a goal that leaves you feeling unfulfilled. Very often, the sacrifices and compromises that are made to achieve goals undermine our values. For example, striving for success in an organization that doesn’t respect the value you place on your down time isn’t worth the effort.

I truly hope that you will have fun and enjoy the journey through 2019. Have a great year!



Walk in faith. Live in abundance.

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Throughout my life anxiety has always been a friend and a foe.  As a friend, anxiety has, in the past, motivated me to get things done now, sooner, rather than later. Anxiety has also been my worst enemy, preventing me from thinking straight, causing me to not do as well I could and should.

I have decided to break up with anxiety and to walk by faith.

A recent reflection on the following verses in the epistle of James 1:3-4, is supporting my decision.

Be assured that the testing of your faith [through experience] produces endurance [leading to spiritual maturity, and inner peace].  And let endurance have its perfect result and do a thorough work, so that you may be perfect and completely developed [in your faith], lacking in nothing.

Walking by faith is not without its challenges.  Faith comes with testing and patience.  But the good news is that the result of persistent faith is abundance.







Faith, waiting and patience

 Faith is being sure that what God has promised, although not yet seen or received, will become reality.  It’s that confident knowing, while waiting on God.  Hebrews 11:1

Waiting with patience is the test of our faith.

Are we prepared to hold on to that confident knowing that God will deliver on His promise while we wait?

There is a difference between waiting and patience.

Waiting, like patience involves passing time with the expectation of an outcome.

Patience is the attitude we have while we wait. 

Patience requires fortitude to continue waiting with unwavering expectancy that God will fulfill His promise.  Therein lies the test.

As James says, living in patience leads us to spiritual maturity and inner peace, from which comes abundant blessings.  We become complete and lacking nothing.  Put another way, we receive the spiritual resources to live lives that are satisfying to God and to ourselves. 

Abundance from the testing of my faith

 My own experience with the testing of my faith has taught me valuable lessons, which have led me to choose patient waiting in faith over living with anxiety.

During a prolonged job search, I held on to Jesus’s promise to answer our prayers John 14:13 .  I also accepted God’s promise to be faithful to take care of me Deuteronomy 7:9.   Patience with the job search was challenging, but throughout the process I learned how to nurture and bear the fruit of the Holy Spirit.  Galatians 5:22-23


  • During that time, I was led to opportunities to participate in the prison ministry. I was amazed at how God working through me enabled me to act with the fruits of the Holy Spirit – to be loving, kind, good and gentle to people who others would consider unworthy.


  • When I did eventually find employment, I was confident in God’s faithfulness to support me as I serve others through my job. I learned through patiently waiting for the answer to my prayers during my job search, that God is always faithful, giving me everything I need to live and to serve Him.

From these experiences I learned that I have more than enough God-given resources, so much so that I can share His goodness with others.  This, I believe, is the abundance to which James refers, which is the result of patience doing its perfect work in us.

To sum it up: walk by faith, live in abundance

 Faith is the antidote to fear. 

We must ask God for more faith so that we may live life abundantly, as Jesus promises us. That said, to have more faith, we must do our part.  Faith comes from hearing the Word of God.  To increase our faith, we must spend time in Bible study to understand and embrace God’s promises. See Romans 10:17.

Patience is the antidote to anxiety.

Anxiety is worry about a future outcome that may or may not happen. Patience is a fruit of the Holy Spirit.  Surrendering to the wisdom of God’s timing is patience in action and cancels the tendency to become anxious.  To do this, we must ask the Holy Spirit to prevail and guide our behavior while we wait in unwavering expectancy.

Advent is a time of expectancy.

Advent is a time of waiting with the expectation that the coming of Jesus Christ brings hope and transformation in us and through us to the world.

As we patiently wait, let us ask for more faith from God to nurture in us the abundant growth of the fruits of the Holy Spirit, so that we may bring abundant blessings of God’s hope, peace, joy and love to the world.

Christ in me, the hope of glory.  That’s why glory matters.



At some point, all of us will be caregivers and will be in need of a caregiver.

Care givers are the invisible backbone of our health care system and provide over 80 percent of the care needed by individuals with ‘long-term conditions’.

2.3 million care givers are employed and must balance the competing demands of work and caregiving.

Caregivers also need to be cared for.

I witnessed firsthand the devastating effects of dementia on my father and the impact of care giving on my mother.  Even though my father was a model patient, it was still a full-time job taking care of him.  He needed care 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.  At one point, my mother had to be hospitalized.  That was when she realized that as the caregiver, she couldn’t do it alone.

The caregiver shouldn’t need to feel that she or he has to be a hero, even though caregivers are heroes.  Their role in society is both indispensable and invaluable.

The number of Canadian caregivers has increased by over 5 million, from 2.85 million in 1997 to over 8 million in 2012.  In 2018, we can expect that this number has grown significantly.

At some point, all of us will be caregivers and will be in need of a caregiver.

If you know someone who is taking care of someone with dementia, please be sensitive, reach out and be kind.

November 4 – 10 is National Caregivers’ Week.

Find out more about Activities  and Resources

All statistics are from A Canadian Carer Strategy, published by Carers Canada 2013


A Tribute to the Franciscan Sisters in Jamaica

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Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.

So said St. Francis of Assisi

True to this guiding principle, three Franciscan Sisters endured a long trans-Atlantic voyage from Glasgow, Scotland to serve in Jamaica.  This was in 1857, barely 20 years after the emancipation and abolition of slavery.  With only two shillings and six pence in their possession, the Franciscan nuns were not daunted by the challenges that lay ahead. For them, true to the teachings of their patron Saint Francis, with faith in God, they would start by doing what was necessary.  There was a need, a dire need to educate, to build communities, to proclaim the Gospel in word and in deed.

By January 1858, the Sisters opened the Immaculate Conception Academy, now Immaculate Conception High School and Immaculate Preparatory School.  Alvernia in Cross Roads was later acquired where the Franciscan Sisters established the St. Francis All-Age School, St. Joseph’s Teacher’s College and Alvernia Preparatory School.

Twenty years later, in 1879, when the Franciscan Motherhouse in Scotland was no longer able to send any more Sisters to Jamaica, the Franciscan Sisters of Allegany, New York, a young, fledgling Community, graciously responded to an appeal from the Vicar Apostolic of Jamaica.  In January 1879, three Sisters bravely set sail from New York Harbour to become the first American Sisters to undertake foreign missionary work.

In later years, the Franciscan Sisters of Allegany would establish other schools – St. Aloysius Primary, Marymount and Mount Alvernia High Schools, to name a few.  In the over 160 years in Jamaica, the Franciscan Sisters have extended their ministry to the vital areas of healthcare, feeding assistance programmes and community development projects in rural areas and in inner cities.

In a day and age when the success of educational institutions is measured by examination scores of the graduating cohorts, it is very easy to praise the performance of students without acknowledging the contribution of those who have laid the foundation and traditions in these institutions.

Beyond the academic excellence of ICHS, of which we are extremely proud, we the Class of 1978 fully understand that none of this matters without strength of character, where discipline, integrity and service to God and community are at the core.

We are the beneficiaries of the Franciscan Sisters’ mission to live the Gospel, to witness God’s Love in the Franciscan tradition of living in community and in harmony with all creation while joyfully serving others, especially those who are poor and marginalized.

Today, we salute the Franciscan Sisters for the role they have played in creating here at ICHS, an environment where goodness and honesty are exemplified and promoted, where excellence is encouraged and the potential of each individual is patiently nurtured, ensuring an enriching educational experience which in turn generates competent, virtuous and happy citizens.

While attending ICHS, we were provided with opportunities to reach out to those less fortunate.  We were inspired and encouraged to be good stewards of God’s creation, evidenced by the beauty of our school campus.  We were motivated to excel academically with the purpose of developing our unique talents to benefit the world.  We were taught Christian values and principles, essential to building our character and directing our ethical and moral choices.

We are eternally grateful for the Franciscan foundation and traditions here at ICHS.  In lasting tribute to the work and witness of the Franciscan Sisters, the Class of 1978 presents this painting of St. Francis of Assisi against the backdrop of our beloved school, and set in the natural beauty of our campus.

This tribute was read at a special event to honor the Franciscan Sisters during the 40th anniversary reunion of the Class of 1978, on Friday 29 June 2018 at the Immaculate Conception High School, Kingston, Jamaica.

Christ in me, the hope of glory!






I’m coming clean.  I’m fessing up about the real reason why my ‘slow’ driving drives people crazy.

It’s because I have been ticketed for driving way above the speed limit three times.  All my fines have been paid and I no longer have demerit points on my driver’s licence.  I intend to keep my driving record clean.  So I’ve fallen in love with cruise control.  This is a lifetime commitment.

I refuse to drive above the allowable speed limit, even if irate drivers honk, swear and look at me sideways while they overtake me or bide their time tailgating me.

My decision to stick to the speed limit is more about being mindful and less about the fear of penalty of demerit points and fines.

If you ask me what exactly caused me to be speeding in Florida, Vermont and Montreal, I really cannot tell you.  My parents were in no hurry for me to pick them up in Florida.  The shopping trip to Vermont was on a lazy day in summer.  In Montreal, I was only 15 minutes away from a meeting that was to start in 40 minutes.


I have done some deep thinking about the life lessons I was being taught by the speeding tickets.  I realised that driving above the speed limit in each case was triggered by my wondering, wandering mind.  I was simply not paying attention.  I was not being mindful – not focusing my attention on the present moment.

Mindfulness is all about being in tune with ourselves, our surroundings and with people.

My musings have led me to two events in Jesus’ life, which have provided some important insights on the importance of mindfulness.

  • Be focused on ‘why?’

Asking ourselves why we’re doing what we’re doing is the first step to being mindful.   The answer to the ‘why?’ question is the source of personal inspiration and motivation, which keep us focused on what we are doing, even amid the myriad distractions around us.

In the eighth chapter of Luke’s gospel, Jesus is in the midst of a pressing, noisy crowd.  A woman with the issue of blood who has spent all her money on medical treatment to no avail, touches the hem of Jesus’ garment and is healed.  In the midst of all this chaos, Jesus suddenly becomes aware that His power to heal has left Him. He boldly asks, “Who touched me?”, so that the woman can come forward in faith, receive her blessing and that the onlookers can learn from this.  In this way, Jesus demonstrates that He is focused on His purpose to teach, heal and encourage people to live by faith, regardless of the noisy distractions around Him.

  • Develop emotional intelligence

Being in tune with ourselves and other people requires emotional intelligence.  Emotional intelligence is generally defined as our ability to be aware of our emotions and control them, while being mindful of the emotions of other people.

Going back to the eighth chapter of Luke, we see that Jesus was approached twice by Jairus, a well-known leader in the synagogue, with an urgent request for the healing of his daughter.  Jesus is aware of the emotional distress of this man of high standing and influence.  Before responding to Jairus’ plea, Jesus addresses the woman with the issue of blood.  She was in a state of fear for having boldly touched Jesus.  She also must have felt shame about her medical condition and for having to openly declare it in front of a large crowd. Jesus, understanding her emotional state, offers her peace and healing.  Her dignity is restored and she no longer has to feel shame or embarrassment.

Then Jesus turns to Jairus, who is humbled in front of a large crowd of common people.  Sensitive to the pain of a desperate father, Jesus reassures Jairus that his daughter will be healed.  Jesus then asks only three of his disciples, Jairus and the child’s mother, to be present when He performs the healing miracle. In this way, Jesus diffuses the sense of humiliation that Jairus must have felt as a religious leader in the midst of a crowd that is witnessing his emotional vulnerability.  Once Jesus heals Jairus’ daughter, He asks that she be given something to eat so that her physical needs are not forgotten in the midst of the rejoicing and emotional relief of her parents.

These events show us that Jesus was aware of the various emotional reactions of the people around Him, at a time when He could have easily become distracted and annoyed by a pressing crowd.  By being mindful of the emotional state of the sick woman and Jairus, Jesus was able to respond to their need with emotional intelligence, treating them with empathy, persuading them to have faith and to receive His peace.  In the end, everyone wins!

Bringing it all together

For quite some time, I have been practicing mindfulness through meditation.  Spending 10 minutes at the beginning of each day in silence while focusing on one central thought is making a world of a difference.  This practice puts me in tune with my emotions and the present moment.  Focusing on one centering thought helps to clear my mind of the clutter and noise of all the other thoughts that flow in and out of my mind.  On my best days, I find that I can act with a strong sense of purpose and greater emotional intelligence, focusing on two or three key priorities while working productively with other people.

Being mindful will always be a challenge.  

It’s natural for the human mind to wander and wonder.

As for my driving – well I have a little ritual whenever I get behind the steering wheel.  I take a few moments to remind myself to be fully present, alert and stay within the speed limit.  In fact driving is one of the best opportunities I have to practice mindfulness.

As for the honking, impatient drivers behind me, well I understand that they may have some good reason to feel the way they do.  Instead of driving them crazy, I simply pull over and let them overtake, when it is safe to do so.

Further reading

10 Tips for Mindful Driving

Three Content Marketing Lessons from a Speeding Ticket


Christ in me, the hope of glory!  That’s why glory matters.





It happened in my final year in high school. I was standing at attention during the school’s assembly. Wanting to set a good example, I was following the no talking rule, even though some of my classmates were not. Every now and again, I asked them to be quiet. Being 5 feet 10 inches tall, I stood out above everyone else around me.

One teacher complained to the Vice-Principal about the bad example of the “chatty seniors” and identified me, “that tall one” as being the chief culprit.

The Vice-Principal reported me and my classmates to the teacher in charge of my class, who, without checking the facts, singled me out with a stern reprimand.

Shocked by the accusation, I went to see the Vice-Principal to explain what really happened. To my surprise, the Vice-Principal refused to accept my explanation, declaring that I was wrong to challenge the way in which she handled the incident. Although I did not ask for it, she said that she saw no need to offer an apology.

Even though this happened decades ago, I am still convinced that I was wronged.

But, I have forgiven.

I couldn’t have believed it then, but I have come to thankfully accept now, that the incident stands as one of the greatest learning moments in my life.

That, I will never forget.
Lesson #1: Courage comes with the risk of loneliness. Be courageous anyway.


Some people agreed that the Vice-Principal was being unfair, but I had to stand up for myself. There was nothing for anyone else to gain or lose by joining me to confront the authority of the Vice-Principal. For me, my reputation was at stake and I had to defend it.

Even when other people don’t realize that they have a stake in someone else’s plight or fight for a cause, it takes courage to defend a principle and make unpopular decisions.

Jesus, on the night He was betrayed, courageously confronted His fear of what was to come. While He was praying in the garden in Gethsemane, His disciples were sleeping. Peter later denied knowing Jesus. Yet Jesus endured a lonely death on the cross for the salvation of all humanity.

When we are alone or feel abandoned, forgiveness is the antidote to bitterness, anger and other destructive emotions that we are tempted to direct towards those who choose not to stand with us.
Lesson #2: We are acting at our level of awareness. We do better when we know better.

Do better

In retrospect, I realize that at the time of the incident, the Vice-Principal was working with an authoritarian view of her role and how students should relate to her. This may explain why she reacted defensively when I presented my perspective and suggested how the situation could have been handled differently.

Life is a journey of constant learning. Forgiving others becomes less difficult when we understand that not everyone is at the same place of understanding. As Paul says in his letter to the Corinthian Christians, “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.”

Jesus’ warning: “Do not judge so that you will not be judged. For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you,” clearly reminds us that we must not hold people to our own standards. He encourages us to focus on our own self-improvement and to encourage others to be better and do better. Jesus set the example with the woman at the well. Labelled an adulteress and condemned to being stoned, she was encouraged by Jesus to come up to a higher level of awareness and to go and sin no more.
Lesson #3: Sometimes the scales of justice can’t be balanced. Let it go!


An apology from the offender may be gratifying to a bruised ego, but does the apology heal wounded emotions?

Can the regret expressed by a murderer restore the life of a loved one who was murdered?

In Luke’s gospel, Jesus provides the answer in a parable. “A moneylender had two debtors: one owed five hundred denarii, and the other fifty. When they were unable to repay, he graciously forgave them both.” In short, not every offense can be settled with a payback.

The pain and anger I felt on that fateful day in high school was rooted in my intense disappointment in the Vice-Principal, who, until then, I had held in high regard. I now know that no one, absolutely no one, is infallible.

In my view, her refusal to apologize is the same as the man who could not repay his debt. Even if she did apologize, I would still be left with my bruised emotions.

The truth is we are in charge of our emotions. No one else can choose to free us from the pain and anger of a wrong that was done to us. Forgiveness heals our wounds and pays us back for what our offender can’t repay.
Forgiveness frees the forgiver!

How to raise funds for charity


Photo: YWCA Montreal team at Scotiabank Charity Challenge / Défi Caritatif Montreal 2015

I used to think that 13 was an unlucky number, but I changed my mind a few years ago.  A brand awareness survey found that 13% of non-client respondents were likely to do business with our company because it sponsored community events and charities they cared about.

Our corporate marketing team got lucky because the 13% result surpassed expectations, justified budget renewal and provided proof that our corporate philanthropy program benefited business goals.

According to Imagine Canada, a national charitable organization that represents the charitable sector, charities and non-profits receive around $2.8 billion from corporations.  The majority of corporations contribute to charities because they understand that healthy communities are good for business.

But corporate philanthropy is becoming more challenging.  And many of the more than 150,000 charitable organizations in Canada are down on their luck.

Thirty-eight percent of companies said that too many charities are trying to solicit money for the same cause.  Traditional cheque book philanthropy is rapidly being replaced by strategic partnerships that benefit both the community and corporate donors.

With shrinking government funding, charities are challenged to find the best way of raising funds from corporate and individual donors.   But this presents an opportunity for charities to find unique and creative ways to raise the funds needed for survival.

How to raise funds for charity?  Help corporations to be successful

A few suggestions that charitable organizations may want to consider…

Pride of association

Charitable organizations can support business by bringing together donors at in-person events to raise funds and network.  Out of this comes pride of association with like-minded peers who share the same concerns and commitment to the charitable cause.

  • A good example is the United Way of Ottawa’s GenNEXT Giving Circle.  United Way organizes networking and fundraising events and initiatives where young people can learn about the needs in their community, volunteer their time, and put their dollars to work where they will have the greatest impact.

Shared community of buyers and donors

Charitable organizations can also support client engagement and expand the number of clients for corporations.  By creating strategic partnerships charities and corporations can launch major events to promote products and build public awareness of the charity’s cause, with the intention of building a shared community of donors and clients.

  • A few years ago, The Salvation Army partnered with Montreal-based designers and staged a fashion show to raise funds for L’Abri d’espoir, a shelter for abused women and their children. The event was used to leverage the brands of the charity and of the fashion designers to create a shared community of buyers and donors who support the cause of protecting women from violence.   

Community and employee engagement

Apart from soliciting donations from corporations who care about their causes, charitable organizations should also ask corporations to volunteer their expertise.  Charitable organizations can organize employee volunteer activities that support employee engagement and strengthen teamwork.

  • According to Volunteer Canada, employer-supported volunteering (ESV) is emerging as a regular practice among many of today’s employers seeking to give back to the community. ESV activities and programs are a new “shared value” approach, helping businesses strengthen community relationships and improve employee engagement. They also give non-profits access to new resources and skills while allowing employees to refine and enhance their skills and expand their networks.

Sharing information for thought leadership

Charitable organizations are well-placed to provide valuable data and insights on the causes they advocate and the services they provide.  This information can be shared with thought leaders and persons of influence who have access to the podiums at thought leadership events.    Many chambers of commerce and think tanks host events attended by the audiences that are likely to become interested in the charitable organizations’ causes.  Through thought leadership, corporations can increase their reputation as experts in a particular industry or as key contributors to the quest for solutions in fields such as healthcare and economic development.

Adopt business practices

Although well-intentioned tactics can be used to solicit financial support, charities cannot rely on luck and goodwill.

The common element in all of these suggestions is the creation of relationships with the aim of engaging corporations in committed partnerships that lead to sustained support for charitable organizations.

Like for-profit corporations, charitable organizations must adopt business practices to increase awareness by creating differentiated messages and developing relationships that provide a mutual exchange of benefits.  This requires deliberate planning with the aim of achieving specific outcomes that are good for charities, businesses and communities.

Christ in you, the hope of glory!  That’s why glory matters.